11 Ways to Get Your Resistant Fiancé Involved in the Wedding Planning

There is nothing more special than your wedding day, getting married to the love of your life and celebrating the big day with your friends and family. However, it’s no secret that weddings are a lot of hard work. There’s often an immense amount of planning that goes into making a wedding day perfect, from the choice of location to the floral decorations, no detail is left out.

Naturally, the enormity of the task can be super exciting for some – and an absolute nightmare for others. So, if your fiancé is a little reluctant to get stuck into wedding planning, one of the best things to do is give them some responsibilities and encouragement.

Here are our top ways to get them involved in the wedding planning:

1 – Picking A Date

Arguably the most important decision you’ll make of the whole process – what date to hold the wedding? By involving your fiancé in picking the date you’re also ensuring that it doesn’t clash with anything important in their year, for example a sporting event or concert. It will also open up the conversation about what time of year you’d like your big day. Would you rather a winter wonderland or a summer wedding abroad? Picking a date is the best time to get your fiancé involved in the wedding plans.

2 – Leave Them in Charge of the Budget

Put your future spouse in charge of your wedding budget. Not only does this alleviate you of the stress of budget management, but it also gives them a crucial role in the planning! You’ll have to report back to them with every spend, keeping them proactive throughout the process.

3- Decide on the Music Together

If your partner is particularly into their music, then why not give them the reigns? Maybe they’ll scroll through your favourite shared playlists and hand a list over to the DJ. On the other hand, they might surprise you with a live band or instrumentalist who will play a symphony as you make your way down the aisle. Either way – that’s the music sorted and one less job for you to worry about.

4 – Write Your Own Vows

If you want to ditch the traditional vows and write your own, your fiancé will be tasked with coming up with their own special message. Writing your vows can be a romantic touch to your wedding, making the occasion feel that bit more personal.

5 – Plan the Honeymoon Together

The honeymoon is just as important as the wedding day. It needs to be the perfect location, the best hotel and have lots of great activities and places to discover. Leave this to your partner, perhaps you can give them a shortlist of countries you’d love to go and let them make the final decision. All you need to do is pack your bags and head off with your holiday essentials and, of course, honeymoon lingerie for your first night as a married couple.

6 – Let Them Plan the Reception

If they don’t seem to be enjoying the ceremony part of the wedding, perhaps they will want to take part in planning the more fun side of things – the reception. The “party” after the wedding will take lots of planning and preparation, but maybe it’s something your fiancé will enjoy more. So, let them have freedom with the reception (to some degree!) while you take a more active role in planning the ceremony.

7 – Get Them Excited by Taking Inspiration from Their Favourite Things

One of the most effective ways to get your fiancé excited about the big day is by making it about them! Ask them about their ideas, and what elements they may have seen in other people’s wedding that they’d like to include in yours. They might want to include ideas that you may not have previously considered. Sit down together and browse through photos and some short videos of some innovative weddings to see how you can incorporate your fiancé’s favourite things, without making it look tacky or ineffective.

8 – Value Their Input

When your partner comes up with an interesting idea, don’t dismiss it immediately. Listen to what they have to say and encourage them to share their thoughts with you. If you keep rejecting their suggestions, then of course they won’t be likely to give you any more. Keep them involved in the wedding planning process by always considering their ideas.

9 – Put Them in Charge of Alcohol

Though your partner might not be interested in what hors d’oeuvres you’ll be serving to guests at the reception, they might take more of an interest in regards the alcohol that’s going to be on offer! Ask them to take control of what alcohol you’ll be serving, including coming up with a cocktail recipe or two for behind the bar.

10- Keep Things Fun!

Wedding planning should by no means feel like a chore, though it’s easy for it to slip into this category. Keep things fun by going for “date” nights where you plan your wedding in other settings aside from at home on the sofa.

11- Remember Why You’re Getting Married in the First Place

The whole process of planning a wedding can be extremely stressful and draining, and it may even cause you to have a disagreement or two with your other-half. It’s important to remember what all this effort is for – to get married to the love of your life. So, when you feel like it’s getting a little too much, take your mind off it by spending some time with your fiancé away from the wedding planning bubble.